How to Get 5-12 Year Olds to Behave and Do As They’re Told”
Furthermore, parents come together with their own “styles” of parenting depending on their own up-bringing which may, of course, put them in conflict with each other. Maybe one parent is “soft” and the other more “hard-line”. Maybe one parent was used to rules and routines, while the other parent was more used to flexibility in their family.
How can two parents who come from different parenting styles and who were raised differently, come together and present a united front? This book shows how.
Why won’t children just do as they are told?
The one thing that drives parents to distraction though, is children not doing as they are told…
- “Why can’t they do it the first time I ask them?”
- “Why does it have to take me asking them three times before they actually do it?”
- “Sometimes I wonder if they are actually really deaf!”
- “Why do I have to yell and scream before they actually go and do what I want?”
- “It’s like I always have to repeat things three or four times before they actually go and do it.”
- “What’s the matter with these kids that they won’t do what they’re asked?”
- “I end up threatening them that they’ll lose their TV, Game Boy or I-pad before they actually go and do it!”
This book puts the whole parenting issue into perspective and gives clear guidelines and instruction on how to manage children. It sets out the basics about what you need to know about parenting and what you need to know about your children and how they “tick”. It shows how to handle them. This book has been a huge benefit to parents who have read it and followed it.
It gives a very practical hands-on strategy for how to manage children and shows how to get children to do as they are told without the parent yelling at the top of their lungs or ranting and raving! It talks about the areas in the family where most of the arguments occur and shows what to do about it.
Finding the balance between love and control is what produces secure and responsible children.
My own clinical observation however, says that that there are basically four major “accident” or “crash” areas in almost every family. These are the areas where most of the arguments occur, most of the yelling takes place and most of the uproar occurs.
- The Morning Routine and getting off to school (at the same time parents are usually getting off to work)
- The Evening Routine (from the time children come home from school to the time that they go to bed)
- Children getting on with each other and sharing
- Children doing as they are told
How would you like to reduce the “crashes” in these areas? A practical program is outlined to show you how.