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Love and Control

How to Get 5-12 Year Olds to Behave and Do As They’re Told

Furthermore, parents come together with their own “styles” of parenting depending on their own up-bringing which may, of course, put them in conflict with each other. Maybe one parent is “soft” and the other more “hard-line”. Maybe one parent was used to rules and routines, while the other parent was more used to flexibility in their family.

How can two parents who come from different parenting styles and who were raised differently, come together and present a united front? This book shows how.

“Your simple methods and ideas have helped me to become a better parent. How to work with my children and not against them. Understanding the very importance of the habits and discipline we instil in them now, will create for well-balanced and respectful young adults. Thank you.”

Michelle Walford, mother of two children 5 and 10 years

Why won’t children just do as they’re told?

The one thing that drives parents to distraction though, is children not doing as they are told…

  • “Why can’t they do it the first time I ask them?”
  • “Why does it have to take me asking them three times before they actually do it?”
  • “Sometimes I wonder if they are actually really deaf!”
  • “Why do I have to yell and scream before they actually go and do what I want?”
  • “It’s like I always have to repeat things three or four times before they actually go and do it.”
  • “What’s the matter with these kids that they won’t do what they’re asked?”
  • “I end up threatening them that they’ll lose their TV, Game Boy or I-pad before they actually go and do it!”

This book puts the whole parenting issue into perspective and gives clear guidelines and instruction on how to manage children. It sets out the basics about what you need to know about parenting and what you need to know about your children and how they “tick”. It shows how to handle them. This book has been a huge benefit to parents who have read it and followed it.

It gives a very practical hands-on strategy for how to manage children and shows how to get children to do as they are told without the parent yelling at the top of their lungs or ranting and raving! It talks about the areas in the family where most of the arguments occur and shows what to do about it.

“It’s been a while since I’ve read a parenting book packed with such sensible and practical guidance. I found this unique comparison between the two wheels of a bike and the balance that we as parents must have between ‘love’ and ‘rules’, to be very helpful.

We must keep both wheels rolling, pumped and in good order to have balanced and loved children. This book is a good and easy read, I really enjoyed it.”

Vanessa Wrogemann, parent of two children aged 10 and 14 years

Finding the balance between love and control is what produces secure and responsible children.

My own clinical observation however, says that that there are basically four major “accident” or “crash” areas in almost every family. These are the areas where most of the arguments occur, most of the yelling takes place and most of the uproar occurs.

They are:

  1. The Morning Routine and getting off to school (at the same time parents are usually getting off to work)
  2. The Evening Routine (from the time children come home from school to the time that they go to bed)
  3. Children getting on with each other and sharing
  4. Children doing as they are told

How would you like to reduce the “crashes” in these areas? A practical program is outlined to show you how.

This practical “how to” book needs to be in every home where there is a child. For US$9, the audio-book can be downloaded immediately for you. You get the entire book professionally narrated for you in MP3 format, so you can listen in the car or on your iPod or any other device anywhere. Otherwise, if you’d prefer the hardcover or Kindle version, please click on the alternative¬†link below.

“Dr Darryl Cross has considerable academic achievements and experience as a lecturer at two universities which give him academic credibility; his two decades of family counseling give him practical credibility; and his engaging manner and common sense give him credibility as a wonderful communicator.

Those he has helped have asked for this book. Don’t miss this opportunity to share his wisdom”

Rev Nick Hawkes, Rivergate Church